A relationship is a two-way street. You need to treat your partner with respect and kindness if you expect to have a long and meaningful relationship.
Let us take a look at the large picture of the relationship
Do you communicate regularly?
This means that you spend time on either end of the phone speaking to your partner. If you're not in the right place to be communicating, then schedule an appointment to talk face-to-face. The more interaction you have, the more you will learn about your partner. A good marriage relationship needs to be nurtured so that the two of you can enjoy each other's company.
How much time do you spend alone together?
When you are apart from one another, you need to spend quality time together. If you take your partner for granted, they may become disappointed with you. If you are spending too much time together and you're not sharing personal space or time, then this is a warning sign that you don't value your relationship as much as you should. Take some time away from each other prioritise seeing how you and your partner interact.
How are you with your body?
Are you showing signs of neglecting your body or not getting enough sleep? If you're having health problems, then it's time to make a healthier lifestyle choice. This can be a wakeup call for both you and your partner to get fitter and back into the swing of things.
Any past relationship 'gnawing' your private moments?
Are you holding yourself back because of past relationships, or is it a new relationship that's keeping you from living life to its fullest? Sometimes there needs to be some time to let go of old habits and make room for new ones.
If you and your partner have been in the same situation before, now is the time to move forward instead of holding onto what you've got! Sometimes it's good to let go of what didn't work in the past.
Do you and your partner share the same interests?
You and your partner must be on the same page regarding the essential things to you. It doesn't matter if the two of you are quite different regarding what is important to you. It should be something you can both agree on and work together on. If you and your partner do not share the same interests, then it's time to work on those areas where your interest lies.
How can we determine that our relationship is not working?
Well, start by looking at how you and your partner communicate. If your conversations are often heated, then chances are, your relationship isn't going the way you think it should be. When one of you shuts down or stops talking, it's like a slap in the face for the other person. If this is the case, then either one of you needs to work on these communication issues or learn how to talk to each other more respectfully.
Are you somebody to 'trust'?
Are you a better friend and confidante than you've ever been? Are you able to provide a shoulder to lean on when someone needs to talk? A lot of couples find themselves relying on their friends to help them with their problems and emotions. If you and your partner are more friends than lovers, then that needs to change.
Are you comfortable saying "I love you"?
Are you comfortable saying that you care for your partner? If either of you has stopped saying these things, that needs to change. The need to tell those nice, romantic phrases is one of the most significant barriers to romantic relationships breaking down. Just find a way to be more romantic with your partner.
Is your sex life lacking?
This point might seem like a no-brainer, but in many cases, it is overlooked. You might be doing all you can to please your partner, but something is still not coming from your actions. Women often ignore this one because it is such a small detail, but it can be the one thing that will take your relationship to the next level.
Do you want both – romance and excitement?
Does your relationship need a little more excitement? Has your romance become predictable? These need to be discussed and resolved now. No one said staying in a monotonous relationship was going to bring you closer or save your marriage. If anything, it is going to keep things exactly where they are now.
If you and your partner are at this point in your relationship, you know there are some things you need to work on. It is time to make simple changes to your relationship.
Embracing new positive thoughts is one great way to begin this process. If you don't want to talk about these issues with your significant other, you may want to consider meeting with a therapist for a private conversation.
This is the first step toward making those simple changes to your relationship that will ensure a much happier and more satisfying future for you and your partner.