People with personality disorder, remorseless mind frame, violent tendencies and carelessness about ethics! Well, these are some of the traits of psychopaths that we either read about or see in the movies! Every psychopath might not behave like Shah Rukh Khan of Anjaam and Darr, or Kajol of Gupt, or maybe Nana Patekar of Agni Sakshi! But, that does not mean psychopaths do not exist in real life. Well, we have them around us too, but we often fail to recognise them. In fact, for a lot of ladies out there, it may come as a surprise to know that the man in their life possess certain psychotic traits. So, to help you out, we have put together 13 traits that will help you identify that you are dating a psychopath.
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#1. Too serious too soon
Is someone on the second date talking about true love and spending the rest of the life together? Well, in that case, you are most likely getting trapped in the psycho circus. Even if you believe in ‘love at first sight’, both of you would still need some time to take some serious decision. Well, it is the first sign you are dating a psychopath, “beware”!
#2. He is always in a financial mess
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People with disoriented career goals, unstable bank accounts, nearly no savings and securities can also be the ones to fall into the category of being a psychopath. Whether it is their financial condition that lead to this mental disorder, or it is their genetic psychopathy that does not let them keep their job; there surely is a deep connection between the two.
#3. You feel he lacks empathy and compassion
Does he lack emotions, empathy and compassion? Falling for a less compassionate partner is not weird because we often fall for people who are different than the lot. However, gradually you will realise that someone who lacks emotions, care and concern is not just hard to live with, but also needs special care and attention. To cut it short, he needs psychopathic treatment.
#4. He backs out from his statements every now and then
You made a plan and he said a ‘yes’! But, the very next day, he changed his mind. What’s more? He is not even remorseful about spoiling your plan and mood. If this happens to you quite often, then it is time to be a bit more cautious about your relationship with this guy!
#5. Lying is an easy game for him
Does he lie to you more often than not and that too even for the situations where it was not even needed at all? Psychopaths have a personality disorder and hence, they sometimes themselves mix up the truth with the lies. They might not be deceiving you, but they are out of their minds. Well, do you really want to keep this relationship?
#6. He is paranoiac
Is he constantly on a lookout for unusual moves and signs to suspect and accuse you of cheating? Be it your dress or your Facebook account, he wants to keep a check on everything and does everything possible to take over your life. So, if you have a skin infection that looks like a love bite, you are neck deep in trouble girl. Well, do you really want to spend your entire life like that?
#7. He is over-possessive
Okay, you missed his call while you were at the salon. But not one, you missed at least 20 calls during the short span in which you were in the parlour! By the time you get back to them, they probably would have called up all your friends, cousins, home and every possible connection who might have your whereabouts. Isn’t that psychopathic behaviour?
#8. He is too charming to be hated
To say all the right things and make the right moves at the right time is what a psychopath knows the best. They usually have a charming and pleasing personality, are watchful of their words and are helpful too. That is how they make their first impression. Keep in mind, when you tell your bestie they have a personality disorder, they are not going to trust you!
#9. Manipulation is their favourite game
Psychopaths play mind games that you would not be able to figure out for a long time. They make calculative moves, keeping the outcome in mind. They know exactly when to upset you and when to win you back. For a long time, they will control your mind and you would continue cursing yourself for no reason, but only because they wanted you to.
#10. Unpredictability is what’s troubling you!
A psychopath will shower you with beautiful compliments, romantic WhatsApp chats and touching Facebook tags. But the very next day, he will give you a cold shoulder and you would not even know why. Well, that is what you simply call the unpredictability! But every time, he will also win you back whenever he would want! You surely got to run away from this, don’t you?
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#11. Making love is an accomplishment to him
If he behaves to have conquered you instead of feeling close, intimate and emotional under the sheets, then it is time for you to rethink about this relationship. Psychopaths simply satisfy their ego through their performance in bed, and there is hardly any emotional involved!
#12. He is an attention-seeker
Just to keep you under the impression that he is loved so much and everybody wants him, he keeps a third person of opposite sex introduced always. Be it a co-worker, an ex or a friend’s sibling, he just loves to pull around a love triangle even if it does not exist. So, do you think it is worthy enough to give your best to such a guy to keep him glued to you forever? No, right?
#13. He gets violent with you
If your partner screams and yells at you, abuses you, your friends and your family, then you surely are not at the right place. Getting violent and angry every now and then are two of the most common traits that a psychopath possesses. And, do not even get trapped by his teary eyes and swearing not to repeat! Psychopaths are also known for repeating their mistakes.
Well ladies, do not rush into making a decision and walking out, as just one or two of the above given reasons does not make your sweetheart a psychopath. But, a majority of ticks on these points quite possibly do make him fall in this category. If it is so, then it is time to stop walking on the eggshells and get out of this relationship immediately!