A few years ago, I met a lovely lady who had just separated from her partner and had two young children. She has since divorced and we have bought a house together. Mostly, everything is great. However, her mother, who lives on the other side of the world, visits the UK two or three times a year – and stays with us for two or three months each time. I cannot keep living with her. She drives me insane! She doesn’t respect the rules of the house and she is always there. I have explained my issues to my girlfriend, but to no avail. I don’t want to lose her, but I am running out of patience.
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