I went for a bachelorette party and survived, without a drop of alcohol

Getting married is an exhausting affair, not just for the couple who is getting married or their families, but also for the people who are attending. You literally have to work months (and sometimes years) in advance to make that one day of union the perfect day, exactly the way you had always imagined. Let’s break down the whole ‘wedding’ affair in three stages – 1. Pre-wedding, which includes a crazy, drunken, your-last-days-of-singlehood parties, 2. The actual wedding which is a 3-4 day event, and 3. A trip to some exotic place with your ‘bae’, which is also called as ‘honeymoon’. Indians are known to go overboard when it comes to weddings, it’s a known fact. But what has caught on off-late are the lavish bachelor/bachelorette parties.

All the cliches that you know of what goes into a bachelorette party, whatever you’ve seen in the movies and read in the books, they are all true. Exotic trips, days of absolute partying, sexy/skimpy outfits, bar hoping, crazy amount of alcohol consumptions, lots of dancing, lots of drunken dancing, staying out till the wee hours, weird sex games, drunken heart-to-heart conversations, drunken selfies and after-party hangovers. If you have ever been to a bachelor/bachelorette party you know this is what goes down before your friends says ‘I do’.

Last month, my closest friend got married​. Apart from planning her two weddings (white wedding and a Hindu wedding), she was also planning her bachelorette party. Interestingly, her oldest and closest friend too was getting married the same week as hers and so they decided to combine two bachelorette parties and make it a weekend-long celebration in a beach town. Of course, that meant loads of girls and loads of alcohol. For someone who doesn’t drink (yup, that’s me), these kind of parties just make you wonder ‘what the f*** am I doing here’, considering everyone is drunk and happy and dancing and barely walking straight and puking all over. Personally, I don’t get the concept of a bachelor/bachelorette parties. I mean, what’s the point of partying hard and screwing around that ‘one last time’, just days before the wedding? Isn’t it a little strange to celebrate an impending marriage by ogling half-naked members of the opposite sex, flirting with everyone and drowning in alcohol? What about this demonstrates respect and excitement about the commitment the person is going to make? Infact, people who are in long-term relationships aren’t really bachelors or bachelorettes; you’re not a bachelor/bachelorette if you’re in a committed relationship.

But keeping my cynicism aside, I agree (having attended one such party) that while these parties could be amusing (at times, embarrassing) to watch and be a part of as a sober person, it could also be fun to connect, chill, catch up and socialize with your friends, especially when they are drunk. And that’s exactly what I did, with the help of plenty of virgin mojitos and fresh lime sodas.

Have you been to a bachelor/bachelorette party sober? Share with us your experiences in the comments below.

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